My wife put a sign on our homestay student’s door. A normal reaction, or too extreme?
Posted on December 30th, 2009 by admin
My wife put a sign on our homestay student’s bedroom door with my two children’s’ names in a big circle with slash "no" sign tonight. The trouble started yesterday when our student accused our 4 and 7 year old kids of taking two things from her room. Our student asked me to tell the kids to stay out of her room if she isn’t home. As it turned out, the items in question were in fact ours, not the student’s — we just happened to have identical items. When I told my wife about it, she said that the kids never go in the student’s room. I also agree that the kids probably do not go into her room unless she invites them in when she is at home. In any case, I thought the request was reasonable. My wife, however, was upset that the student thinks our kids are going into her room. She made the sign I described above and taped it onto her door. Our student was very upset and said it was just too much. I tend to agree, and think my wife should apologize to the student.
My question to you all, is:
What would you do if faced with the student’s request? Should I be upset at my wife for putting the sign on the door? I think the response was too extreme — is it, or am I just too forgiving?
Signs and notes are almost never a positive way to handle problems and almost always passive aggressive.
Ideally, your wife and the student should both apologize for overreacting in the situation. Then maybe you should make sure you guys and the student agree on the house rules/boundaries, and make sure your kids are clear on the rules too.
December 31st, 2009 at 12:07 am
That was too extreme. Your wife should apologize to the homestay student. It sounds to me as though your wife doesn’t like the homestay student’s presence in the home. She needs to lighten up.
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December 31st, 2009 at 12:48 am
I think that everyone needs to sit down and discuss this. Putting a sign on the student’s door is really passive aggressive and isn’t dealing with the issue. I would have everyone sit down, come to an understanding, discuss what really happened, and make rules clear.
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December 31st, 2009 at 1:13 am
And my daughter ask me to allow her to study abroad and stay with families..I’m scared..that’s not as bad as my fears..still it’s a little extreme..time for a group talk and hug ?
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December 31st, 2009 at 1:48 am
Signs and notes are almost never a positive way to handle problems and almost always passive aggressive.
Ideally, your wife and the student should both apologize for overreacting in the situation. Then maybe you should make sure you guys and the student agree on the house rules/boundaries, and make sure your kids are clear on the rules too.
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